My husband is a big fan of the movie Grumpy Old Men so I’ve seen it more than a few times over the years. A variation of the quote above is used in the movie (though I discovered the origin of the quote is Lewis Carroll), and it’s a good one. I’m a sucker for a good quote, and sometimes movies have really great ones. (One of my favorites about regret is from Love Actually, one of my favorite movies ever, when Daniel is encouraging Sam to go after Joanna before she flies off to America. Now I need to watch that one again.)
Too often we play it safe instead of going after something we really want. We have lots of good excuses, aka reasons, we shouldn’t take the risk–too many other responsibilities, bills to pay, people counting on us, et cetera–but generally the main reason we don’t is the fear we might fail. None of us likes that feeling of failing at something, and not trying for something we really want to do is an easy way not to fail. Except…don’t you think you’ll wonder ‘what if I had’ forever? I’m talking about important things here, a long-held desire to do or be something, for instance someone who wants to perform in some capacity like singing or acting, but they choose not to take the chance, telling themselves they’re not good enough, that they need to stay close to home for family, that too few people actually succeed, so why bother trying… You get the idea. You might even recognize some of those excuses from a time you chose not to take a chance yourself. I do.
I’m not saying we should all just toss caution to the wind and abandon our responsibilities to run off and chase a childhood dream. I am suggesting, though, that we could all take more risks in life. Even small ones– joining a class to learn something you’ve wanted to know how to do but hesitated because you wouldn’t know anyone there, or it might take you away from home for an evening or a whole Saturday. Or maybe a bigger one, like going back to school to pursue a degree, even while you would still have to keep your day-job. Or, what the heck, auditioning for the regional theater’s new production if you’ve always wanted to perform. The worst that can happen is you find out it isn’t what you’d hoped, or that you’re not really cut out to deal with the reality of being onstage. But you’ll know. You won’t spend the rest of your life wondering ‘what if’. As scary as taking the leap can be, having a definite answer is better than never trying, I think.
It’s not impossible to go it alone, but I will admit, it helps if you have some support. When I was starting to seriously dip my toe into writing waters eons ago, it helped that my husband encouraged me. I never would have gone to my first writers’ conference if he hadn’t, and boy, would I be sorry now. I met some great people there, some I’m still friends with 20+ years later. I can’t imagine where my writing would be now if I hadn’t gone there, if I hadn’t met some of those people, including one who encouraged me not to quit when I reached a point where I was seriously thinking about it.
Wow, this turned into a lot more than I anticipated when I started. I didn’t intend on a lecture, just some encouragement, and maybe someone will take it and run, maybe someone will think harder about what they’ve been considering. And if not, that’s okay, too. We all have limits to the level of risk we can tolerate.
Now I need to get back to today’s to-do list. My weekend is off-schedule from the norm, because we went Friday night to see Rick Springfield on the “I Want My 80s” tour. I’ve wanted to see him since I was in high school a really long time ago, and it was worth the wait. As an added bonus, we also got to see The Hooters again; I haven’t seen them in ages and they’re so great live. Plus Paul Young and Tommy Tuntone were on the tour, too. It was a really awesome night, and I’ve already worn my new Jessie’s Girl t-shirt. Haha. I can’t wait to see him again. In the meantime, I’m listening to his new album Automatic on repeat, and alternating periodically with the new album The Hooters released this year, too. Totally worth throwing off my weekend routine.
Before I get back to the weekend chores, I have a quick snippet for you today from Freeing Medusa, the final book in the Medusa’s Daughters trilogy.
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She nodded, shutting her eyes behind the blindfold. “I’m sorry, Hunter.”
“For what?”
“For you being stuck in the middle of this.” She let her chin drop as he carried her up the steps again. “You shouldn’t have to play nursemaid and fight off killers you never even heard of before today.”
The bed hit her back, but Hunter didn’t move away, his wide chest half-covering hers. “I’m not stuck in anything, Katharine. I do what I want, and if scaring off murderers and keeping you safe is necessary, I can do it.”
“You shouldn’t have to.”
She heard his quick, exasperated sigh. “I don’t have to. Don’t you get that? I could’ve just kept driving this morning when I saw him climbing in your bedroom window. I wanted to do this. I want to make sure you’re safe.” He touched the corner of her mouth. “Friday night was amazing, but I was kind of hoping we could play the dating game, Kat.”
Her brain whirling at the rest of his words, she didn’t catch the shortening of her name right away. “No one’s called me Kat since I was six,” she said finally.
“Who was it?”
“A boy in my class. He never did it again.”
“Did you hit him?” A smile sounded in his voice.
“A little.” She couldn’t stop her own smile. “He never talked to me again, even though he was in my class for two more years.”
Hunter brushed her lips with his, startling her. “Are you going to hit me?”
She shook her head on the pillow. “Not today.”
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My current chances I’m taking with my writing involve my ongoing hunt for a new critique partner or group–since I’ve not had any luck with that so far, I took a co-worker up on her offer to read for me, so at the moment, she has the first two books in a short contemporary series I wrote some time ago and would like to get out into the world. Depending on how that goes, maybe I can get those ready before the end of the year. Freeing Medusa is on my list for release this year as well, one way or another.
So…what is one chance you’re going to seriously consider taking this week? Or this month? I’d love to hear about it!